Your Love Language

The book - The Five Love Languages - has been out for quite a while. I, however, have just started reading it, it's our study this time around in our home bible study group. It's interesting to know that people give up their marriages, most times unknown to them, because their "love language" is not being spoken to them. One man in the book was on his third marriage and things had again fallen apart. He didn't understand why. He was always telling her that she was beautiful, did good at her job, always praising her. Yet she was growing more and more negative. Problem being, he wasn't speaking her love language. Words of affirmation are nice, but if your love language is quality time, then you're missing the mark.
We learned this last week of keeping your "love tank" full. And that of your kids. A question was asked, how many problems with our kids could be averted if their "love tank" was full? Kids need attention and they will seek whatever kind is available. Positive or negative. If we as parents keep their love tank full and give them the positive attention needed, then we can keep the negatives to a minimum.
It's not that hard to figure out a love language. People speak their language to you. If your child always wants your attention, maybe his/her language is time. If they make or give you things, it's probably gifts. If they do for you, it's probably acts of service. We know our own love language, we "speak" it daily even if we don't have a name for it. Watch, pay attention. What is your child or spouse giving or doing for you? That is their language. Speak it back, by giving or doing for them. Fill each others "love tanks" and we can have much happier homes. Relationships with our spouses and our children will be better if we take the time to understand each other.
The five languages of love are:

Acts of Service - doing something for them
Words of Affirmation - Build them up, praise for a job well done
Quality Time - spend time with them, doesn't really matter about what you're doing
Gifts - doesn't have to cost, children like to pick flowers, that counts
Physical Touch - holding hands, hugs, a kiss, sitting close on the couch

What's your Love Language?